Following is not meant to be judgmental or assess those in multiple relationships as less. It is meant to take into consideration potential risks as I see them.
The case for has potential for argued many times as it is different more interesting and interesting factors into sales. The case against matters and is not always adequately addressed by Churchs. Church doesn’t want men with more than one wife ostricized or turn up rage against them thus things like that are often kept under raps not fully talked about.
People don’t always perceive, consider and comprehend the value subtracted by increased needs for risk mitigation.
Imagine the following scenario.
The preacher just baptisted two baby girls.
Now consider a preacher that had been in relationship with two women at the same time in the past vs one who has not.
They both could be fully repentant, fully forgiven by God. But historic records, precedent set in the past factors into how the actions on any given day is perceived.
I could make a logical case for more than one woman, life being short and relationships never amplifying ideally. Though not really what I am going for in this document. There are people in multiple relationships people that might be still imperfect but might be more perfect than me. Only have one relationship has potential for upsold to ideal evil out. While it might be more ideal evil out in some cases it would be unwise to say not being in multiple relationships take away other problems in life like greed, adultery, lust, lack of love, lack of due diligence etc. People that know other people are in multiple relationships are immediately turned up with ideal discernment, judgment, and assessment? No.
Multiple relationships has the potential to breed thoughts like doubt and division, reduce trust and make people think the one in those relationships does not fully appreciate waste or damage done by not making someone special. People are called to Not Judge by The Bible, People do not seem to be called to be Not Tempted in the same level, which has potential for less than ideal combinatorics. Not Tempting others is hard, leading by example is hard, being watched when you don’t want to be watched is hard, perception and comprehension factors into actions taken is not always ideal does not always deliver ideal or sufficient results. People always consider desire not to tempt people behind the hidden cameras when they take a shower? People that are delivering less than ideally, such as spying, need to be tempted less or more? Less known might not equal less delivered, delivering less is easy, light or ideally comprehendible. Difficult to gauge who is watching and who is not, who is listening and who is not makes it very difficult to perceive Temptation Output and thus potential Non Ideal Non Sufficient Judgment Output? Yes.
Extra relationships have potential for More Headaches and a Bigger Target painted on one’s back then all might fully appreciate or comprehend. Times are good has potential to lead to Rosey view that times will always be good, people ok with something on the short term will be likely to want to stick with it in the longer term. Life has a tendency to complicate without multiple relationships, more complication is not always valued when throughput is king, and for better or worse at times throughput becomes king. People are far from ideal at making sufficient grace and support for special cases, part of why we likely end up with some men with multiple women. Less grace and support amplifies ideal lines respected? No.
Man has potential for Hubris. Making one Woman happy might be seen as easy and light not knowing how life experiences are likely to amplify, might decide marrying more than one is no big deal, easy to get right. A trip into the unknown or a trip into the unknown, potential for upsold to the same experience likely in insufficient ways. Choosing one woman does not guarantee won’t be cheated on, Choosing two woman does not guarantee won’t be cheated on. Potential for problems and hurt with relationships, risk and reward likely harder to fully perceive and comprehend with more than one variable, and people are not variables (yet sometimes set to ones like Criminal with a Record or Not a Criminal with a record). People are wrongly upsold to variables at times, dehumanized and multiple women does not negate that fact. Being light and lift is valuable, especially in hard economic times, and those seen as having more might be easy to target, devalue, and dehumanize thus complicating ability to keep families happy. Factor in children and explaining two Moms and them having to explain that to their friends, potential for allot of considerations people don’t make when they see a new beautiful woman and think that would be a nice addition to my life.
My arguments are ideal against one man having multiple women? No. My arguments being less than ideal means more up to debate which equals high potential for potentially extra conversation and stress not all people want to have especially in critical times in life, natural disasters, and wars which have shown precedent for amplifying at unexpected times and in unexpected ways with lack of preparation as default. Less of a problem, less up to debate about in critical times is throughput and Throughput is valued for a reason in both ideal and non-ideal insufficient ways that is not always fully pondered or reflected upon. Extra stress not all lift for relationships added. I could make decisions easily that could leave me in the same shoes as those with multiple women? Yes. I think I would have ideal or even sufficient support and capacity to deal with complexity, reduce anxiety and stress in good times let alone hard times? No.
Desire to make two women happy does not equal getting to be with both kind of a part of reality God has left In By Design yet there is a historic precedent for trying to work around it potentially with more or less ideal results not always fully versed. True damage or True value added able to be talked about with zero temptation amplified, zero stress, zero non ideal judgment and assessment? Unlikely. Hard to get actual truth has potential for greater risks potentially greater rewards. The risk is hard to gauge and true value out hard to gauge makes me think the rewards might be more likely hitting the lottery – great if ideal, yet getting ideal only occurs in 0.00001% of cases? No risk no reward factors into who purchases lottery tickets, perceptions of only have a week to live factors into risks taken that don’t always take into account long term.
Movies and Media give unrealistic examples and expectations set many times. Potentially could pan out that way does not always lead to happy endings for all.
Results matter and time losses matter, and just because I might relate to the strong rich hero in a movie does not equal my life delivers that way. Cost might look low in movies does not equate to always is low in real life.
Work splits ideally and more in a family always equates to less friction seems unwise as well. Not showing favoritism hard to get right with more parties sometimes.
The easier choice is not always the wiser choice and has shown a precedent for being reminded in non-ideal ways. Less of a target for self might equate to more of a target for others and is not always fully pondered. Reminding the World that different and unique cases still need to be supported, appreciated, and encouraged is far from ideally amplified. While I might think it not wise to get involved with multiple women, turning down pursuit to get involved has not always shown precedent for ideal delivery of support. Happy, content, sail away to let others deal with problems is both desirable and likely insufficient support added many times. Less Responsibility sometimes factors into Freedom and is not always fully pondered or reflected upon before people make decisions.
Maybe others could say they got to this point in life by making all wise choices, I cannot. Wise choices seen as easy might lead to seeing erasers as not needed. It is wise to have erasers in by design as mistakes are in by design.
Man with no Woman sees man with Two+, not factor into the potential for jealousy, envy, hope losses, and loneliness over time, the losses to dignity felt? Not factor that into perceptions of how that man might view God and delivery from God? People believing in God or not believing in God factors into how the 10 Commandments are perceived. Don’t Murder to 4000-year-old religious propaganda not all ideal. I believe in God though I struggle with it constantly, not factor that into potential temptations for others?
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