People change over time. People also don’t always have the right words or experiences in life to match up correctly. We make mistakes and we don’t have the knowledge or proper level of mercy to deal cordially with each other. When we are young our experiences are vastly different and I and probably some others might have been less prone to being merciful. When we don’t have real conversation there is no way to truly know what happened. Things just don’t work out and we don’t know why.
People don’t tell the truth to people they don’t think will be merciful to them. Whether that is true or not isn’t always known. We judge others to be unable to properly handle the truth. Some relationships probably didn’t work out because I hadn’t experienced enough to be less judgmental. They didn’t have the right words to convince me otherwise. And they judged that I was unable to handle the truth. Others with their own self interests might have the right words and choose not to because of their own problems and their own agendas.
People labeling each other based upon where they were earlier in life doesn’t take into account that they have the ability to make positive changes. When we see things continuously not working out we think others might have labeled us when they did not. Leave anyone in silence long enough and they start formulating their own ideas on what happened and why it happened. The sad truth is judgmental people need more support and not less. The sad truth is those that lie and steal and cheat need more support and not less. Yes, it can be bad for us. Is it better to lose them in the long run? Yeah their currently a tyrant, but their our tyrant. Help me with the right words.
Figuring this all out sideways is lame. Figuring out that many don’t have our best interests at heart is lame too.
Finally some people are just different. God made us all different. I wish we could all work together for the better of all. I wish we all agreed on how best to make that happen. I wish some choices didn’t require compromises. Compromises that leave anyone in society in silence and misery not really treating them like they wish to be treated. Figure it out without support is annoying. Being setup to fail is lame. The Bible says a lot. A man that prays for support while feeling like they are getting no direct support really doesn’t lead him to want him to read more. Oppression can prevent people from speaking up. If we talk to them they will think this about us. Then we’ll be left out in the cold.
Likely some stuff might have been going on I didn’t know about before. I also might not have had the mercy and love to handle what they told me properly. Others might not have had the right words to say to me. Was I easy to be talked to, no. Did I believe more was going on than what I saw on the surface? No. Could they have spoken up and let me know, without problems added to their life? Possibly. Is better for them better for me? Not always. Is there no consequences to silence and not speaking up? Sadly no. Speaking up isn’t always about what is best for us. Sometimes it is about saving them. Saving their heartache, their problems, years of misery. Do we always make the right choices? No. No room for forgiveness and correction that doesn’t involve a jail cell? Doesn’t seem very wise to me.
Deal with it. Silence or support depending on how you read it. I mean this to be support. Not I make this mean, so they support more. Less support can make people meaner. So now expect them to support more? Not always about what is best for us.
Justice feels good when we get it at least initially. Hurts when it is done to us improperly. It is addictive though, easy to overstep our bounds. Can’t stop at just the people that wronged us so much, now we have to go for those that lied to us when they were just protecting themselves. Others can lead us down the wrong paths. We can over step our bounds. Now justice can be done to us. Doesn’t feel too good. I must return fire not knowing all the facts? Screw that. I must return fire on those lead down the wrong path by a society that failed them? Screw that. There are times where defusing situations require less than optional solutions. Better to work together to reduce those.
Got it in for anyone? No. Get all right all the time? No. We don’t need mercy too? No? Labels past statute of limitations? Screw that. People that stop trusting their support need less people to talk to? Screw that. Unmerciful people left to their own devices? Screw that.
Sitting on an iceberg watching the titanic float by. They will get what they deserve? How about everyone else? Silence their voice and then expect them to speak up when it matters to us? Shh, nobody wants to hear that. Decisions can diverge our paths, but it should not silence them. Labeled for silence. Because we wanted the system to fail. Wait that’s not what we want? Better speak up. Didn’t have the healthcare I needed? Didn’t speak up? You mean you did? They were understaffed and overworked too? Everyone else just watched? We can’t figure out a solution that doesn’t leave them in silence? It’s our way or the highway? Not oppression of its own? Only silence it is the only way. They know what they did, figure it out. Silence it is the only way. Silence it is the only way. Why is nobody speaking to me?
Mercy and forgiveness. Because silence is a cold wind on a dark night. But they said they didn’t want to speak to me. People can’t change? No room for error? They will talk to me if they want to. If they can? Because oppressive forces aren’t stopping him? Because oppressive forces aren’t stopping her? Can’t say I will have the right words. Have a little faith. Every time I try to speak up things just get worse.
The Devil likes to divide and conquer. Scale up both sides and reduce forgiveness. More than two sides to an argument possible? Not only possible, many times probable. Factors matter. Individual decisions can be wrong, and the combination gives a good reason to be merciful. They said it, they might not have said it the way I wanted, but thank God they did. They fixed it, maybe jerry rigged with some duct tape but it saved us all. It ain’t always pretty but thank God its there. Better not always perfect. They bought us some time, now let’s find a way to make it right. I want to help but I don’t know how. They did it wrong. I did it right the first time?
Encourage their good traits. Support for life. Play up their bad traits, makes it worse for us all. Yes what we don’t say matters too. Better to be thankful for what we do say. It’s a compliment though not what I was looking for. The worst kind of red head, the one that goes for the non red heads. No room for different? Would you want to date that guy in the mirror? No, but they aren’t me. Maybe more muscles. A giant without restraints? Could they handle being a giant? Not without support. Yes they could handle it but I want her, so let’s stop that. They aren’t perfect yet, they can’t handle it. Who is? Who can without support? Patch it up it will buy us some time. But don’t forget about it. The world is complex and ever changing. I forgot about that. I forgot to fix that too long. Nobody filled the void? They might have, but we labeled them. Dammit we meant it for good and they used it for bad. We tried to tell you. I wasn’t getting tons of fast balls at the same time? I wasn’t a chemical piñata at the time? We didn’t protect the guys there trying to solve the problems and fix our health? Hard to make ends meet when labeled. Less than optimal solutions collide.
Permanent silence not an optimal solution.
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