People are at different places in life. One person makes one mistake and another person makes a different one. Both mistakes matter, both have implications. Some mistakes people decide have to be fixed before moving forward. While I agree in some instances, I don’t agree with this is the case in all instances.
A tire has to be fixed before getting on the road. Driving on the axle won’t work. People wrong each other in different ways. They don’t understand each other at the time and easily judge the other without understanding more of what is going on. I am not immune to this reality. I might have had the wrong words at the time I spoke to someone. When we prevent people from moving forward sometimes we never arrive at the words we should have said. The right person in our lives can make all the difference and same for the wrong person.
People that don’t forgive and always react a certain way are robotic. This can be misused by people that understand this which can be very dangerous. Add drugs like alcohol, some prescription meds, and some over the counter meds. Add media from movies and music this can further complicate things. People like pushing each other’s buttons at times to get a rise out of them. Fighting this nature is difficult.
To further complicate matters the people producing the medications, movies, and music might not realize how their pieces are perceived in composition. I took drug A and watched movie B, and add in lost job effects C. A+B+C = ? Some might know this and some might not. For judges or jurors to judge effectively they should know this, though it is likely some of these combinations are so dangerous they are hidden from public view. Some of this can drastically change the way people act. Some very successful people probably know some of the combinations in their fields and even if they know the down sides they aren’t always easily able to say.
Testosterone makes you feel great when your on it. When it leaves your system it can lead to anger. People say Testosterone doesn’t make you mad it is the lack of Testosterone. While this is literally true, the reality is taking it creates an up swing and a down swing and when I was on it this can make me prone to anger. Doesn’t effect everyone the same, though some might think it would be taken away if they told the truth. I had a prescription. If my life was going fine and I didn’t have any problems it would have been better.
Sadly life doesn’t wait for people with health problems. No different for a person with diabetes. You never know what people are taking for their health problems so overloading anyone isn’t wise. Bring in corporate games and stressful situations like combating corruption it could have devastating consequences. Men lose Testosterone as they get older, so this isn’t a knock on the medication, just want people to understand. An older man might have more trouble with anger due to all this.
Compound in people wanting to use your life to tell a story, it can be overwhelming. Death by 1000 cuts is not a good way to live, why we need to look out for and protect each other. Given all that, the no forward until fix really can be detrimental. Magnify the good and steer away from the bad. Also better to do this with words because giving people extra life experiences might be more than they can handle at the time. If you knew what I knew you wouldn’t add that on top of their life right now. Don’t use this as an execute to say someone can’t handle something.
Stagnating people and not telling them why is no way for anyone to be treated. This requires people to not take things out of context, and to handle it responsibly. Some people abuse the truth so maybe that is why I was kept in the dark. Doesn’t really make me happy that I got grouped in with the untrustworthy. Further pride and protecting image can be valued over telling someone something that could save years of pain and heartache.
The truth hurts sometimes. Telling someone they aren’t at the level you need is difficult. It is insulting. It is still better to hear the truth. Sadly telling people the truth to people that don’t have access to the resources they need to be competitive is heart breaking. Why we need to work together with each other to help achieve dreams in a safe and effective way. If we limit an artist because we think they might paint the wrong picture, they might find funding from the wrong people. Better to empower them and inspire them to understand how powerful a painting is and what value it can add or subtract from a situation. Some of the slight grey areas are slippery slopes and people don’t always understand the end game.
If an FBI agent read about 20 people dieing from something they would likely be jaded to think it is horrible. They don’t always pass the information along to everyone else, possibly because it is so burdensome. That kind of stuff could probably be really depressing to see day in and day out. Be careful what you ask for. At the same time do you just want to hear don’t do that without a why? Marijuana is bad. Why? Its bad. Why? An example of where a government limiting knowledge might make people more apt to try something. Governments lie about other things, why should I just trust them with that?
Maybe some people have had closer friendships in the FBI so they might have been given the knowledge they need to steer clear of some problems. Not really fair for part of society to get the info and not the rest. Not fair that some people get viewed as less desirable to have around so they miss out on the info they need to lead a better life. But they are a liability. Not looking out for someone and not talking to someone might be more of a liability. When lives are on the line though I understand why they would want to be careful. Not everyone knows what they are mixed up in and this is a sad reality.
In an ideal world people look out for each other, support and protect each other. An example of not being supported is saying “That woman will be a tyrant don’t let her in charge (she broke up with me and I am still mad)”. Instead tell her the qualities she needs to change to be a better leader and look deep inside to make sure the reasons aren’t hidden resentment. This is one of the unseen problems of having relationships at work. Sometimes it is not about the short term it is about the long term. When people want promotions later it can cloud the decision making process. This seems obvious, though I really haven’t picked up on it until today.
Given that some people can be mixed up in things hidden from view, it is wise to be merciful and allow them to move forward when possible. If they wronged you it might take the right support in their life to help them make amends.
If we don’t give them a chance who will? But they are a liability. I could be hit by a bus tomorrow, why not give them a chance? Because it will increase your likelyhood of being hit by that bus. Can’t eliminate all risk in life, if we have the right support to take proper precautions give them a chance. If not “we went another route” (situation is too risky). But why? 3 years later, but why? 5 years later but why? Long term effect not great for people not strong enough to handle the unknown. Maybe that’s why I haven’t had a relationship. Labeled, better luck next life. Maybe 10 years from now things will be better.
The saddest thing of all this is saying this kind of stuff will be used by some to make me sound crazy. If the system is leaving you under the bus, change it for the better. But we don’t want him in the system, so taxation without representation. Not a call to revolution, just pointing out it’s not fair. It is oppression in our country. Not always easy to realize until we are the ones left under that bus. Hearing this kind of stuff directly would have helped me understand, so I am writing it down.
Last some will make you think you made a mistake you didn’t. That unknown is a powerful tool for leverage. But if he knew that we couldn’t use him.
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