Having the right mindset and attitude is important. The combination has potential for upsold to given – I am good at having the right attitude, right mindset, I perceive and comprehend things in ideal ways thus I act on them in ideally rational ways.
This day has potential, is full of hope, is full of many moments to change things in positive ways? Or this day like many days that have preceded it are full of challenges orchestrated by an uncaring and unforgiving world, that is hell bent on partially destroying itself?
If the day has potential – the people that are around you in the day (or lack of people depending upon how remote of a location you are) has potential. If love your neighbor is embraced one has the potential to reaffirm a positive mindset and attitude by praying for people in close proximity for them to be blessed and protected, have an enabled day, have a day that gets better and not worse.
Imagine you choose not to go that route. Imagine you are waiting in a crowded place and someone cuts in front of you in line. It has happened many times before, the injustice is re-perpetuated and festers in your mind. Your anxiety, anger, and blood pressure may all increase partially compounded on each other because subconsciously your mind knows that anger sometimes leads to more problems and more anger.
All of this happens because one makes the conscious decision about what to take seriously, what matters, what is the ideal route one should be on. If you were showing grace, investing in prayer for others, loving your neighbor, hoping their day gets better – them getting served early than you, having a spot earlier in the line is really that big of deal? No, helps them and reinforces what you are praying for (them to have a better day, week, year, and life).
Life presents situations like this. It is like a maze at times – take the wrong turn – getting mad about the wrong things while simultaneously not investing in positive risk mitigation has potential to destroy days, days that become weeks, months, years, and large portions of people’s lives. Love, grace, reinforcing positive paths, and investing in risk mitigation strategies like keeping the mind invested in positive, hope, and potential is power that has potential to lead to better results over the long haul.
Can’t say it is always easy to keep the mindset. I can say that if one lets their anger gets the best of them, refuses to let things go, that is when problems can happen. People that get cut off in traffic likely don’t want to allow that to wrongly jade their conversation with their family – events are distinct, logical and reasonable people should ideally be able to silo events and give others and new events the clean positive inspiring slate. In practice it does always work out like that, events add up, one could have chosen to leave work maybe 30 minutes later with less traffic – avoiding the situation entirely, yet people have a tendency to think they are better than, invulnerable to reason and logic – one can work 20 hours extra overtime yet it will not show stress, will not stress self and relationships because we are a rockstar and more money is clearly a win.
Less is sometimes more, getting away and reduced proximity has potential to solve situations in advance. Less is sometimes more is hard to gauge and is far from always ideally turned up at least on a personal level. Walking away is cheaper at times than words that aren’t easy to take back, words that people never even wanted to say in the first place. It is not a situation you want to be involved in – but you walk forward, invest in a future – when there are many other directions.
Reminder that personal biases, tastes, and preferences don’t evaporate whichever path you choose positive and praying for your neighbor seeing the potential in the day or hell bent on settling the score of injustice at a microcosm level.
The Devil, demons, miscommunication, insufficiency, and injustice want us to fight each other, never make amends and peace. Like pieces of the puzzle designed to inspire and make everyone’s day worse in combination. If we fail to see them, fail to realize that they are in by design and working against us on a common basis, we will likely just fall into their trap day after day, week after week, month after month, and year after year until we look up one day and think – what the hell happened?
It is worth loving your neighbor and praying for everyone constantly – it might do you more good than them
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