Being all about one person has had a tendency to drive people away in my life.
Society likes to make examples out of people does not equal those people won’t have cancer.
Desire to look like a player, play the field amps less than ideally.
Desire to look like you are all about one person, love another amps less than ideally.
The combination gives feeling of damned if you do, damned if you don’t. But Church just sits back like it is no big deal.
What you start out with in life factors into who wants to teach you a lesson and why is not always a fully comprehendible system.
Invested can be less than an ideal system. Conversation with neighbors and others should increase potential in life, yet with a harsh society has potential to amp negated support. People that are charming are competition, competition is not always appreciated and can easily be reduced.
Real conversation limited amped as a useful system has high potential to amp woe over time, higher than people might expect by default. A group of people that talks and works through differences is less likely to be picked off one by one.
Silences teaches a lesson does not always equal the reason for that lesson will be known.
Things claimed resolved are not always resolved. Time without fixes amps less problems is not true value added.
Investing in hard conversations and repairs upfront can be a lot of value added, not just for self but for others as well.
A wiser path can be chosen at each waking moment.