The more we know the more we think other’s might perceive things in the same way. We project or own though processes on the way others might think. That jades our perception of them. Believing the best in other people and not having preconceived ideas about how another person is thinking is difficult. People are looking for insights that reinforce their ideas and stereotypes.
Some can play up the problems for their own agendas. “See, they are not a Christian.” “See, they are not a leader.” “See, they are not marriage material.” To jaded eyes that might reinforce an already jaded world view. To people that don’t have close friends they trust they might listen to these ideas without realizing they have their own agendas. Our world view might not be everyone else’s world view. Lack of support is really a precursor to many mistakes. The combination of this reinforces lack of support. Labels and unforgiveness are like pushing the support beams out of the house we are all living in.
Believing the best in others means believing they have your best interest at heart. When I have been left in silence and it seems like people are taking swings at me continuously it is very difficult to believe they have my best interest at heart.
God say’s mercy will be given to the merciful. Yet I keep praying for mercy and forgiveness for everyone and I am left in silence. Is it really mercy to take all a man’s friends, take away his ability to trust, leave him in silence, and blame him for what he doesn’t know? We want mercy but not mercy for him. Sounds familiar.
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